Thursday, February 26, 2015

about my children serving

Community Serve Day Oct 2008
In the Spring of 2008 I was sitting at my table at MOPS and one of the women expressed how she was considering giving up her secular philanthropic work and wondering if there wasn't a place she could serve with her daughter that would have "more meaning". That began a discussion that ultimately led me to serving on the Solana Beach Presbyterian Church Community Serve Day committee -- something that was just being birthed -- with a focus of what it looks like for our children to serve in God's Kingdom.

Here it is February 2015 and this past Sunday we had up our annual Community Serve Day - worship services shut down, over 1300 volunteers served at 78 sites throughout the county.  Young and old working together to bring good to our community.

Over the years I have had the incredible opportunity to dialogue with children, families, ministers, parents, grandparents and caregivers about service.  We have talked about what it looks like for children to serve. We have shared different ways for families to serve together.  And I have wrested firsthand with what it looks like for my family to serve within our faith community.

Community Serve Day 2010
On February 21, 2010, I served as Developer of Family Projects as we saw the reality of over 3,000 people serving in community throughout San Diego County.  That year I visited some of the 48 sites we had with children so I could experience family involvement first hand. After much debate my husband and I opted to make the visits as a family – which meant taking our 4, 2 and 7 month old with us.  We ended up visiting 13 sites that morning -- incorporating ways for our kids to experience serving along the way as we visited and shared volunteer experiences. Planting a flower, learning how helmet liners are made, writing an appreciation card, buying and collecting food, are just some of the many activities we took part in that morning as our community came together across our county.

We saw nuclear families with babies in carriers serving.  We had families divide and conquer – parents and grandparents supporting the interests of different children.  We checked out childcare who were touring sites held on the church campus while their parents were serving at other sites.  Some children had caregivers or grandparents serving alongside them.  It was an incredible testimony to me of the diversity of my community.  We had a common purpose -- to fulfill real needs in San Diego County - but that purpose was carried out in so many ways!

Community Serve Day 2015
Community Serve Day 2014
This year our children – now 9, 7 and 5 – consider Community Serve Day to be a way of life. This past year we had the opportunity to serve at our own school – washing windows, doing some gardening, picking up trash and pressure washing the lunch area. This year they have been on the look out for projects and were ready to tackle their school on a whole different level.  Community Serve Day is no longer one morning where their little bodies grow weary as they work to pour out love on others and expand their view of the needs around them.  It is a growing awareness of the needs around them every day.  A growing appreciation for the projects that can be done in a few spare moments and the ones that take longer planning and the participation of friends.  This year as they worked to resurface picnic tables, painted parts of the Kindergarten play area, recycling center and school dragon mascot I watched them build deeper relationships with friends as they worked together.

What started as my thinking about how I could model service and equip my kids to serve has been birthed into my children having their own ideas of what it means to serve and how it should be done.  They are already talking about next year.  And we are continuing to talk about the big questions – like what are the “real” needs of our community?  How do we meet those needs when they seem bigger than our resources?

Community Serve Day
Through Community Serve Day my children have been greatly blessed by our faith community.  They have seen new ways to serve that I never would have thought of exposing them to.  They have experienced service in ways my husband and I couldn't model.  They have experienced what it means to collaborate with others.  And they have been given a vision of service that far exceeds what my husband and I could have given to them alone.  We are so thankful to be part of a community that believes in serving not just with our words but with our actions.

I can't wait to see the next steps in our journey!

You can see more photos of our community serving at the links below:
2013
2014
2015

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Total Surrender: Believe Series

Key Question:  How do I grow a life of sacrificial service?
Key Idea:  I dedicate my life to God's purposes.
Believe, Chapter 15, Total Surrender (Daniel 3 - The Fiery Furnace; Acts 6:8-7:60 - Stephen)
Key Verse:  Therefore, I urge you brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God -- this is your spiritual worship.  Romans 12:1

Mike McClenahan at SBPC shared 3 points this Sunday about Total Surrender:
1)  God is fully devoted to us.
2)  God asks us to live as an offering.
3)  Generously give ourselves to God's purposes.

He pointed out that single-mindedness is being aware of God and His purposes and Total Surrender is actually going it -- living out God's will.

He asked us to think about how we have surrendered or sacrificed in ways we never thought we would for: 
- Biblical Community
- Spiritual Gifts
- Offering our Time
- Giving our Resources
- Sharing our Faith

How have we lived our lives as an offering back to God?

As I continue to unpack the IF:Gathering one of the things I have loved the most is that as the leaders unpacked their time together they "celebrated the birth of our gathering, mourned the pain and sacrifice it cost, and spoke about the future,"  in the words of Bianca Olthoff. I love the phrase "mourned the pain and sacrifice it cost" -- so often I think we get so excited about having experienced God on the move and glimpsing His goodness at work that we overlook the sacrifice and cost. Maybe it is our pride -- not wanting to admit there was a cost.  Maybe it is fear for those that come behind us -- that the sacrifices we are making are too big and will intimidate them. 

"Selling" the concept of Total Surrender isn't a welcome concept.  I know it is one that I am struggling with on new levels as I watch my children's faith develop.  Do I really want them to be fully surrendered?  What will it cost me as a parent?  And, yet, I know of no other way to come to God...   



Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Single-Mindedness: Believe Series

Key Question:  How do I keep my focus on Jesus?
Key Idea:  I focus on God and his priorities for my life.
Believe, Chapter 14, Single-Mindedness (2 Chronicles 20:1-30; Matthew 14:22-32)
Key Verse:  But put God's kingdom first.  Do what he wants you to do.  Then all those things will also be given to you.  Matthew 6:33

Some weeks it is hard to figure out what the distractions are and what the focus should be.   How do we keep our focus on Jesus?  What does it mean to be single-minded?  As I bounced my attention Sunday from 1) my daughters preparing to sing in choir in two different services and locations on campus to 2) a son who was seeking to celebrate scout Sunday and 3) gathering t-shirts for Community Serve Day as registration continued and my sites made final plans -- our worship was "interrupted".  When my friend walked into worship that morning he never expected it to be cut short by a stroke.
While Mike McClenahan shared his 3 points about Single-Mindedness: (1.  Focus on God in the midst of distractions.  2.  Align your will to God's will.  3.  Trust God with your needs and desires.)  I traipsed from one location to another tracking children, praying and wondering what God had in store for my friend's life -- and how that would affect my life.

Throughout the week the passage from Jehoshaphat's story in 2 Chronocles has rung again and again in my ears:  "We don't know what to do, but our eyes are on You."

What does it mean to be single-minded?  When everything keep automatically funneling down to one thing.  It is having the chaos and questioning reduced to focus.  God is leading and all you have to do is pursue him.  



Friday, February 6, 2015

what God will do...

What IF God does things we have never imagined at IF:Gathering 2015?

IF:SanDiego #IFGathering #IFSanDiego

It is hard to believe how fast IF has grown and the magnitude of impact it has already had.  Women have been challenged to wrestle with real issues of faith.  To start with the IFs.

IF God is real...

Dialogue has occurred that has changed daily walks through IF:Equip, gatherings through IF:Table and now for a 2nd year women will gather from around the world and look at the IFs of our beliefs at IF:Gathering.  Jennie Allen's dream has become bigger than her.  It has taken collaboration of leaders to draw women to the foot of the thrown...as warriors ready for the challenges of today.

What IF God moves women in San Diego to live in new ways for him?  As my husband said last night -- it isn't the hours from the weekend...it is what lies ahead.  What will the cost be when God calls?  What IF we respond?

I love the writeup for this event:

"

IF God is real…then we want more than anything to live like it.

What IF we started living like God is real? Really real? Then what? What IF we surrendered with reckless abandon to a God we believe truly loves us? What IF he then works through us in greater ways than we can imagine to help those around us?  What IF we started living what we say we believe?
"
- taken from https://ifgathering.com/gatherings/5049/
And so today I pray for Belief...to the God who knows my unbelief and loves me anyway.

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Bible Study: Believe Series

Key Question:  How do I study God's word?
Key Idea:  I study the Bible to know God and his truth and find direction for my daily life.
Believe, Chapter 13, Bible Study (Joshua 1:1-11; Matthew 13:1-23)
Key Verse:  The word of God is alive and active.  Hebrews 4:12

Mike McClenahan at SBPC shared 3 points this Sunday about Bible Study:
1)  Bible Study shapes our beliefs, practices and virtues.
2)  We hear and understand God's word.
3)  We obey and practice God's word.

As Mike shared he discussed the 4 types of soil found in Matthew 13:  good soil that bears fruit, hardened pathway soil that prevents seed from taking root, rocky soil that doesn't allow strong roots, and thorny ground that chokes out the plant.

As I walked this week with a friend we kept passing these bushes  -- some growing far above our heads and others just a few branches springing from the ground. As we walked my friend shared the importance of soil.   She had planted two plants and taken the time to ensure the soil around only one was prepared.  She had dug a nice large hole for the one plant.  However, running short on time, she had placed a second plant next to it without proper soil preparation.  As those plants grew over the years there was always a significant size difference.  I shared that I would have attributed it to the light or the amount of water but she assured me it was simply a difference in soil.  As we continued to walk I reflected on the 4 types of soil Mike had shared about Sunday and how each one of those types is in my heart.  How often to I want to attribute the lack of fruitfulness in my life to circumstances other than my heart?

Am I willing to invite God to renew the soil in my heart so that His truths can flourish there?  Will I choose to take the time to sit with God's Word and meditate on it in a way that will shape my life?  Am I willing to do the work of meeting one-on-one with God and in community to wrestle with what Scriptures mean in terms of my day-to-day living?  Am I willing to uproot enough area around my preconceived beliefs to grapple with God's calling on my life to love those around me?

I have a few different ways I enjoy connecting with scripture:
  • Sunday Worship
  • Daily Reading 
  • Bible Study (small group, lectured large group, personal)
  • Journaling (A Modern Girl's Guide to Bible Study by Jen Hatmaker provides a great overview of Bible Study Journaling Strategies and I also love seeing what others are doing on pinterest)
  • Through different Bible Translations (some of my favorites are the NET, NIV, The Message, NLT, ESV, The Voice)
  • Investigating historical, archeological, and cultural insights (I have found owning a good Study Bible, Concordance, Bible Dictionary, Bible Handbook and Atlas (or using online resources like BibleGateway.com) extremely beneficial)
  • Reading Commentaries
  • Creative exploration of scripture (worship music, journaling, collages, acting and role playing)
  • Memorization/Mediation/Liturgy
  • Praying Scripture (particularly the Psalms thanks to Ben Patterson)
  • Word studies (thanks to Louie Giglio)
Some resources I have found helpful over the years have been:
  • Knowing the Reading Level of My Bible and finding the right fit for me and those I am studying with
  • Doing a Chapter Summary Outline Format  (1.  Pray for direction and for God to speak to you.  2.  Read the chapter.  3.  Break the chapter down into easily remembered parts, i.e. make a simple outline of the chapter.  Answer the question: What does the chapter say? 4.   Write a short summary of what the Lord spoke to you about, i.e. what really stood out to you?  Answer the question: What does the chapter mean to me?  5.  Write a practical application you can draw from the chapter.   Answer the question: What am I going to do about it?  6.   Pick a key verse and give YOUR OWN chapter title.
  • Henrietta Mears, What the Bible Is All About